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What IS it with Brits and SEX?

Published Wednesday, March 18, 2009 in

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OK, seriously, I am NOT a prude. I'm not. But I'm starting to realize that every story I read out of the UK obsesses over sex -- youth sex, in fact! I guess the sordid tales of sexual escapades on the part of their politicians and royals just aren't enough to occupy those folks. Now, it's all about the kids.

Gosh, at least they're fretting over their children.

What has me so incredulous this time? A mom trying to find a sex partner for her son who has Down's Syndrome, one of several Down’s sons she has adopted.

Determined to help him find a woman, mum has put up a web site and says she'll even pay a prostitute. “I always look at what other people are doing and why shouldn’t they do the same things?” This mom just wants her boys to be like everyone else.

Um, mum? Most other guys’ mums aren’t out finding them sex partners. And if you’re looking for experiences similar to other guys, some are conceiving children out of wedlock -- children for whom they are unable to care (see previous blog) -- and still others are contracting all sorts of icky sexually transmitted diseases.

Cool beans! Let’s find someone who can share those experiences with your kid, too!

I’m not arguing that adults with Down’s can’t enjoy loving, committed relationships. Rather, I’m arguing that it’s just gross to play pimp for your son, disability or not.

To use the technical term: yuck, yuck, yuck.


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By Kristi AuBuchon @ Wednesday, March 18, 2009 12:54 PM
I wonder if this woman has ever considered that God may have made people with Down's or other disabilities, so that there are actually people in the world who DON'T think about sex. It IS gross to play pimp for your son, but its even worse to play pimp for a son with Down's who probably would never think about sex. How discusting.

By teri @ Wednesday, March 18, 2009 3:33 PM
That is just sick!!!

By Amy Holwerda @ Wednesday, March 18, 2009 5:41 PM
Reading that a mother was actually trying to fulfill a part of her sons life that she felt wasn't up to par with the rest of her "society" almost made me want to throw-up. I'm a mother of a daughter with DS and I fully expect her to have her ups and downs with all aspects of growing up. She is very happy and capable of finding love wherever and with whomever she chooses and at what time, if it comes, that she is ready. For someone to try to "fix" their childs life in such a degrading way is shocking to say the least.

By Suzette Standring @ Thursday, March 19, 2009 5:38 PM
Pimping with good intentions still equals skanky trolling. The "mom's" attitude is revealing that random, one-time (unless she's out to create a regular school schedule) sex mimics a "normal" experience enjoyed by others. Which begs the question, does "common" equal "normal?" It does if you run with skank trollers.

By Mandy @ Monday, March 23, 2009 11:42 PM
I'm appalled but would have to say, I have no doubt it has happened here in the U.S. However, when do go back to England, I often feel I am a prude - completely different standards of advertising and language on TV and radio and on the high street. And alcohol is a serious issue.

By F Horton @ Friday, September 25, 2009 1:52 PM
I have a 19 yr old downs son who would like to have sex also. But since we all know it doesn't stop after one time, what then? It is kind of like a pandoras box, I know he jacks off alot.

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