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Another reason to monitor your child's cell phones

Published Thursday, June 05, 2008 in

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This morning, I stood in my kitchen, mindlessly eating my yogurt and drinking coffee, when this headline caught my eye:

Teens sending nude photos via cellphones

The subhead describes the problem further: "Pictures meant for boyfriend or girlfriend are ending up on the internet."

Here are a couple of key items in the story:

"School administrators in Santa Fe, Texas, confiscated dozens of cell phones from students in May after nude photos of two junior high girls began circulating. The girls had sent the photos to their boyfriends, who forwarded them to others, officials said."

"Psychologists said the phenomenon reflects typical teenage hormones and lack of judgment, with technology multiplying the potential for mischief. It also may reflect a teenage penchant for exhibitionism, as demonstrated on MySpace and countless other Web sites and blogs."

"Some parents are aghast."

Only some parents?

And you wonder why our culture corrupts childhood innocence.

The "teens" highlighted in the article are mostly middle schoolers. This would make them between the ages of 11 and 14, roughly.

This means children between the ages of 11 and 14 are now creating pornographic photographs of THEMSELVES and transmitting these photos to other children ages 11 to 14, who then are distributing said photos to the public.

Perhaps the parents who are not aghast wonder why these kids would do such a thing for nothing, since we all know child porn is big business. ("You sent your nudie picture out for free?! We could have added to your college fund!").

This is the result of our "grow-up-too-fast" world. Kids are engaged in the culture, where morality is relative and Disney stars can enjoy role model status even after their nude photos are circulated world wide.

Worse, the issue in the article isn't the fundamental question of why a young girl would think it is OK to take a nude picture of herself for her teenage boyfriend, but rather, do these kids today realize that those internet photos will follow them to a job interview?

That psychologists could in any way attribute such behavior to normal hormone changes and poor judgment reflects the sorry state of our cultural expectations regarding puberty.

Yet, the most distrubing part of this news story is "Some parents are aghast." Because the truth is, some are not aghast, or disturbed or even surprised. Which in itself makes me aghast.


Comments
By Barb Szyszkiewicz @ Friday, June 06, 2008 9:44 PM
It's not surprising, considering the pictures I've seen on Facebook of the girls in my kids' classes. I think they all have a plot: "Let's look as much like a hooker as possible and then post that picture."
Obviously they are spending way too much time without adults paying attention to their actions, words, and cell-phone habits.
Yes, I'm overprotective. I wouldn't have it any other way.

By Lisa Cooper @ Friday, June 06, 2008 9:48 PM
Two years ago our daughter began public high school after 9 years at a Catholic school. Lots of other kids from her school seemed to transition to public school quite well. Not my daughter. She was totally freaked out by what she was overhearing about the "recreational activities" of many of her peers. Seems we did manage to shelter her a bit from what's been going on in the world.

By Dawn @ Saturday, June 07, 2008 1:02 AM
This brings up SO many questions ie:, Why do they have a cell phone, What makes them think they should be taking nude photos, Why do they at that age have boyfriends, etc etc. What it boils down to is the parents need to be parents. I think too many parents want to be friends first then parents. Many parents want to take the easy way out instead of trying to teach their children to be moral upstanding citizens.

By Jen Singer @ Saturday, June 07, 2008 3:57 PM
And to think I was aghast to see one tween photographing her crying friend on the Gravitron at the town carnival the other night. You just know that's on the Net already. But e-mailing your own naked photos? We're moving to Amish country.

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